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5 AI Prompts For The Words You Need But Can’t Find
The toast, the eulogy, the apology, the letter you’ve been meaning to write. The moments where the wrong words land badly and the right words last forever.
Some moments in life require words you don’t use the rest of the year. A toast at your daughter’s wedding. A eulogy for the parent you weren’t fully ready to lose. The letter you’ve owed to a friend for ten years. The apology that may or may not be received the way you want it to be.
You’re not a writer. You don’t need to be. You need exactly one good draft for exactly one occasion.
AI is the patient ghostwriter you can revise with for 90 minutes at 11 PM the night before.
These five prompts are for the moments that earn the “I’ll never forget how you said that” reaction. Each one structures the writing without flattening your voice.
One rule: AI gives you the structure and 80% of the words. The last 20% — the specific memory, the actual nickname, the inside joke — has to come from you. The reader can always tell which 20% is yours, and that’s the part that lands.
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PROMPT 1 · WEDDING TOAST
Write The Wedding Toast That Doesn’t Embarrass Anyone.
Wedding toasts go wrong two ways: too sentimental and too jokey. This prompt threads the needle — specific, warm, funny in one place, and 3-4 minutes long.
You are an experienced wedding-toast writer. I'm giving a toast at my [DAUGHTER/SON/SIBLING/FRIEND]'s wedding. I want it to be specific, warm, with one good laugh, and ending on something that lands. Help me write it. About me and them: - My relationship to the bride/groom: [PARENT, SIBLING, FRIEND, ETC.] - Bride and groom names: [NAMES] - One specific memory of the person I'm toasting that says something about who they are: [DESCRIBE] - One specific quality I admire about their partner: [DESCRIBE — even if I've only met them a few times] - An inside joke or quirk only family/close friends would get: [DESCRIBE — optional but useful] - A moment when I knew their partner was right for them: [DESCRIBE] - The hope I have for their marriage in one sentence: [DESCRIBE] - Audience composition: [E.G. "mix of families, mostly older relatives" or "lots of friends our age, some grandparents"] - Length I'm aiming for: [3-4 MINUTES SUGGESTED] Build me a toast structured as: 1. Opening (15 seconds): a hook that gets the room's attention without being a joke. Something specific to the moment or to who I am to the couple. 2. The memory (45-60 seconds): the specific story I described, told in a way that reveals something true about the bride/groom and lands a small laugh. 3. The pivot (15 seconds): how this story connects to their partner and what's true about them together. 4. The toast-worthy line (30-45 seconds): the one or two sentences I want everyone to remember. Earned, not saccharine. 5. The raise-glass close (15 seconds): a final blessing or wish, simple, that gives the room permission to raise their glass. Write it in MY voice — natural conversational, not "wedding speech voice." Make it specific to the details I gave you. Leave a 1-line note on which sections I can cut if I'm running long. Important: don't make me cry trying to deliver it. The line that works in a wedding speech is the one that lands without choking the speaker.
What you get back: A 3-4 minute toast with a specific memory, a clear pivot to the couple, one moment of earned warmth, and a close the room can drink to. Plus the cut-points if you're running long.
The Upside
Use the same AI for the rehearsal-dinner toast (different audience, looser), the “what to say at the receiving line” cheat sheet, the thank-you note to the bride’s parents the day after, and the parent-of-the-bride/groom dance song selection if you’re stuck. One wedding has a dozen moments where having the right words ready matters.
Use the same AI for the rehearsal-dinner toast (different audience, looser), the “what to say at the receiving line” cheat sheet, the thank-you note to the bride’s parents the day after, and the parent-of-the-bride/groom dance song selection if you’re stuck. One wedding has a dozen moments where having the right words ready matters.
PROMPT 2 · EULOGY
Write A Eulogy That Captures Who They Actually Were.
Eulogies fail when they try to capture everything. The good ones capture one specific thing, deeply, and let the rest live in the audience’s memory. This prompt finds the one thing.
You are a thoughtful eulogy writer who has helped hundreds of grieving families. I have lost someone I love and I am giving the eulogy. I am not a writer. Help me say the true thing. About them: - My relationship: [PARENT, SPOUSE, SIBLING, FRIEND, COLLEAGUE] - Their name: [NAME] - Their age and when they died: [AGE / WHEN] - One specific thing about how they moved through the world: [DESCRIBE — small things often matter most] - A piece of advice they gave me that I still hear: [DESCRIBE or "I don't have one"] - A small thing only their close people would recognize: [DESCRIBE — favorite phrase, ritual, food, song] - One moment with them I'll never forget: [DESCRIBE] - What they were like at their best: [DESCRIBE] - What they were like at their hardest (it's okay to include — humans are full): [DESCRIBE briefly] - What I want the audience to leave understanding about who they were: [ONE SENTENCE] - Length I'm aiming for: [5-7 MINUTES SUGGESTED FOR EULOGY] - The setting: [FORMAL CHURCH SERVICE / GRAVESIDE / CELEBRATION OF LIFE / OTHER] Build me a eulogy structured as: 1. Opening (1 minute): not "thank you all for coming." Something true about them that lets the room recognize the person we're here for. 2. The one specific story (2-3 minutes): the moment I described, told in detail, that reveals who they were. Small specific details, not summary. 3. What they taught me / showed me (1-2 minutes): the through-line. Their advice if I have it. Or just the way they did the small thing that I now do. 4. What I want the audience to carry (1 minute): the thing I want everyone to leave understanding. Specific, not "she was a wonderful person." 5. The close (30 seconds): a final true sentence. Not poetry unless I have specific poetry I want to use. Plain language usually wins. Write it in MY voice — I'm grieving, I'm not performing. Keep the language simple. Mark the places where I'll likely need to pause for emotion so I have permission to. If anything I gave you would be better left out (private, complex, etc.), tell me — but trust me to make the final call.
What you get back: A eulogy structured around the one specific story you described, in your voice, with the marked pause-points so you know it's okay to slow down. The eulogies people remember are the specific ones.
The Upside
Same AI can help with the smaller moments around a loss: the obituary draft, the texts and emails you need to send and don’t know how to start, the thank-you notes after the service, the conversation script for the family-decisions ahead (estate, belongings, the house). And in the months that follow, the journal prompts that move grief through rather than around. The hardest moments are often when AI matters most. Not because it understands — because it patiently helps you say what you already know.
Same AI can help with the smaller moments around a loss: the obituary draft, the texts and emails you need to send and don’t know how to start, the thank-you notes after the service, the conversation script for the family-decisions ahead (estate, belongings, the house). And in the months that follow, the journal prompts that move grief through rather than around. The hardest moments are often when AI matters most. Not because it understands — because it patiently helps you say what you already know.
PROMPT 3 · DIFFICULT CONVERSATION
Draft The Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding For Three Years.
The talk with the adult child making bad choices. The boundary with the in-law who’s overstepped for a decade. The conversation with a spouse about money. Most people avoid these because they don’t have the words. This prompt drafts them.
You are an experienced family therapist who specializes in helping adults have hard conversations. I have one I've been avoiding. Help me find words that have a chance of actually working. The conversation: - Who I need to talk to: [SPOUSE, ADULT CHILD, PARENT, SIBLING, IN-LAW, FRIEND, COLLEAGUE] - The relationship dynamic in one paragraph: [DESCRIBE — honest, not flattering] - The specific issue I need to address: [DESCRIBE] - How long I've been avoiding it: [DURATION] - What I've tried before, if anything: [DESCRIBE or "never directly"] - Their likely defensive response: [BEST GUESS] - What outcome I want from this conversation: [E.G. "I want them to know X. I don't expect them to change tomorrow. I just want them to hear me."] - What I am NOT trying to do: [E.G. "I'm not trying to control their choices. I'm not trying to get an apology."] - The setting where this conversation could realistically happen: [IN-PERSON, PHONE, LETTER FIRST, ETC.] Build me: 1. The opening line — the most important 12 words. It's the sentence they'll remember and that frames whether they hear me or defend themselves. Test 3 versions. 2. The "I-statement" body — what I need to say, in language that's specific enough to be real but not weaponized. Keep it under 5 minutes spoken aloud. 3. The acknowledgment — what's true about THEIR side that I'm not denying. This is the part that opens the door instead of closing it. 4. The boundary or ask — the specific thing I'm requesting or stating going forward. Concrete, not abstract. 5. The "if they react like X, here's the response" branching — their most likely defenses (deflection, anger, tears, going silent) and what to say to each that keeps the conversation alive without retreating. 6. The exit — when and how to end the conversation if it goes well, and when and how to end it if it goes badly. Both are okay. 7. The follow-up — what I do in the 48 hours after, depending on how it went. Write it like a real person, not a therapy textbook. Make it sound like me, an adult who's done with the avoidance.
What you get back: An opening line, the body (under 5 minutes), the acknowledgment that opens doors, the specific ask, the branching responses to their likely defenses, an exit plan, and a 48-hour follow-up. Most avoided conversations stay avoided because people imagine the worst version, not because the actual conversation is impossible.
The Upside
Same AI rehearses the conversation with you as the other person before you have it — type their likely response, AI plays it back, you practice your reply. Then drafts the letter version if a written start is easier, the family-meeting script if multiple people need to be in the room, and the “here’s what I want you to know if I can’t say it tonight” backup. The cost of avoiding a hard conversation for a decade is much larger than the cost of having it badly once.
Same AI rehearses the conversation with you as the other person before you have it — type their likely response, AI plays it back, you practice your reply. Then drafts the letter version if a written start is easier, the family-meeting script if multiple people need to be in the room, and the “here’s what I want you to know if I can’t say it tonight” backup. The cost of avoiding a hard conversation for a decade is much larger than the cost of having it badly once.
How to actually use these
If you’ve never copy-pasted into AI before, here’s the workflow:
- Open gemini.google.com (sign in with your Google account — free, no credit card)
- Click the Copy button on any prompt above
- Paste it into Gemini’s text box
- Replace the parts in
[BRACKETS]with your real information - Hit enter. Read the answer. Reply with follow-ups — this is a conversation, not a one-shot.
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